My sister commented on my traditions that it seems like we only do things with my husbands family. I admit that it looks that way. Just so I can clarify.....when my husband and I got married we talked about our families traditions and the traditions we want to establish for our children. We decided that Christmas Eve we wanted to stay at our house, have a family dinner, and talk about the Christmas Story. Now that conflicts with my maternal grandparents' family party. I've mentioned to them a few times that I would love if they changed the date of the party. I've thought about it a lot since my other post and decided it's not fair to ask them to change their tradition to fit my wants. Maybe we could compromise and do a different party/get together before Christmas Eve?
The last couple years the same grandparents have scheduled a mini train ride. We went last year but, this year we are not going to be able to go because of other obligations. They also have a party with my grandma's brothers/sisters and descendants the day after Christmas. I haven't felt like going to it so we haven't.
My Dad's family has not done a party or get together at Christmas for several years.
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6 comments:
Sometimes you have to create your own family traditions. I am sure your family misses you guys at the party but I think your Christmas Eve sounds wonderful.
I totaly agree you have to do your own family traditions. My neice's birthday is Christmas Eve and every year we celebrate her birthday on it. This year I have finally had enough, I want to start a fun tradition with my children. I think there comes a time when you just have to do your one thing. Wish I would have done it sooner.
A compromise might be doing your "own" thing every other year and coming to the family thing the other. Or you can see if the other thought of doing another party another time. Maybe we should start back the Brickey christmas party, and just tell them when it is and see if they want to come. Maybe we should talk about it and try one for next year.
I think it's great you focus on your own family on Christmas Eve. We do that and wouldn't have it any other way.
All right Ritchies. Go Ritchies. It's a party!!!!!!
It is so hard trying to keep things "even". Your focus is on your family and that is where it needs to be. We do the best we can and I'm sorry you felt that you even needed to write this post.
Hugs from down the street. I think you are incredibly wonderful! And I mean that with all of my heart.
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